Embracing Personal Beauty: A Journey of Self-Acceptance
My journey of self-acceptance began when I started to believe that people’s opinions of me were more significant than my own. Over the last three years, I was heavily influenced by others’ perceptions, and my confidence took a hit. However, a period of quarantine and solitude allowed me to reflect on how I could truly embrace who I am. This article shares my transformation and the importance of self-love and authenticity.
From External Validations to Self-Acceptance
For so long, I relied on external validations to determine my beauty. People often told me that I looked ugly, and for three years, I began to internalize those words. This lasted until I realized that validating my worth through others’ comments was no longer viable. I decided to stop relying on makeup and filters to feel good about myself. Instead, I started taking selfies without filters and using less makeup.
The Shift in Perception
One significant turning point was meeting my friend Rūkasu, who consistently told me how cute I was. His positive feedback started to seep into my subconscious. One day, I just finally accepted that I could be cute without makeup or filters. This realization allowed me to wear clothes I enjoyed without fear of judgment and to express my true self.
Life Before and After
Before
For years, I was constantly trying to fit into others' definitions of beauty. I wore makeup and filters to hide my perceived ugliness and made a conscious effort to dress in certain colors that people said made me look cute. However, these efforts often left me feeling like I was putting on a performance rather than living authentically.
After
Since my transformation, I feel truly comfortable in my skin. No longer do I worry about how I look in a video call or other public settings. I now wear clothes I enjoy without the added pressure of validation. This newfound freedom has positively impacted my self-esteem and overall well-being.
Reflections and Future Goals
Reflecting on this journey, I understand that true beauty comes from within. I no longer accept negative comments about my appearance and, if they do come, I am prepared to face them with confidence. My goal is to continue living authentically and spreading the message that self-love and acceptance are key to a fulfilling life.
Personal Photos
A sincere self-portrait without the help of filters.
Spending quality time with our rat cat, Freddie.
Welcome new family member, Lucas!
Embracing personal beauty is not just about looking good on the outside; it's about feeling good from the inside out. By accepting and loving ourselves, we can lead more fulfilling and authentic lives. If you are navigating similar challenges, take a step back and remember that you are beautiful just as you are.